Sisterhood in 2018

Gabby Tjiroze
Some females honestly don’t know the true meaning of sisterhood in Namibia.

When you say “We are females, he will never get between us,” how often do you take it to heart and actually stand by that phenomenon and mean it?

I know when I say it, I mean it in every context. Of course sometimes there are a few slip ups like when you just think “I will spend my forever with this other person and this girl is just sour”, we have all been there.

When you feel some type of way because another female warns you against a certain guy based on history with him or even just because she sees he is an obvious douche bag, shake that off.

We have to really start growing up and realising “Is Windhoek Hieso.” This is where we have to seek the spirit of discernment from God to know who those sneaky girls are that will warn you against someone and play it all “ Sis, that guy is trash,” just so she can snatch him from you when ‘she’ feels you’re done.

Some people have honestly had me ‘shook’ to the core. There was an instance where this person, a female, pretended to be so ‘anti-my guy’ while we were going through a breakup because I “deserved better” and he “doesn’t have the capacity to love anyone because he can’t even love himself” all that good tea.

A month or so later after we shared some intimate and intense feelings and being each other’s shoulder to cry on because this same guy took both of us for a ride, this promoter of Sisters before Misters, started dating this guy.

I was not shocked. I was more so disappointed because I actually trusted this person and felt a bond after she helped me realise a lot of dirt around this guy. That is what I get for taking his ex under my wings, because there’s still a lot life has to teach her…I thought.

Believe me when I say I hold no animosity and the situation was rather diminutive, but I was hurt because the principal had been broken.

I am a firm believer in keeping your word and once you go back on it, it will be ten times as hard for the person you played to gain that same trust in you and in the sisters in general. If you could go back on your word over something as petty as my ex then I have no empathy for you.

Please heed my words. I am not writing this to bash anyone, but rather to encourage a spirit of protection for your sister’s heart. If you say something, try to stand by it or just don’t say it at all.

Long story short, now I am being threatened by some of her acquaintances because I am ‘harassing’ her. Sis, where? How?

If you call, looking out for someone’s future, convincing her of her worth and standing up to her when she was treated like trash, harassment, then I want someone to harass me every day.

Let us unite against the petty and the fake and strive to uplift each other. Even if it’s your boyfriend’s ex, if she is trying to support and advise you, take it for what it is. I dream of a day when we will be fully bound by the principal and not just by the fact that we all have the same body parts.

I am healing. I am learning and somewhere in this messed up generation there are still some people who share my sentiments. I am writing this for you! Same Whatsapp group chomie.

Be good to yourself and others.